Children of Deaf Adults (CODAs) are sometimes expected to take on various responsibilities that are not appropriate to their age or experience, such as interpreting for their parent's medical appointments. Sadly, in some cases, CODAs can take advantage of the fact that their parents are Deaf and misbehave without their Deaf parents realising which can cause serious behavioural problems as they get older. One common example of this would be Deaf parents being unaware of the language their hearing children are using, and therefore being unable to remedy this and teach them right from wrong. In other situations, there are regular breakdowns of communication, misunderstandings, and arguments at home especially if the child is not keen on using British Sign Language. Not all CODAs are fluent in BSL, and this varies greatly between each family, even to the point where one child is a fluent BSL user and another child doesn’t sign much at all.
CODAs are fully immersed in both the Deaf and hearing worlds and often serve as cultural mediators for their parents as well as being live-in interpreters for them. However, this is not appropriate, especially in professional and medical settings, and can leave a devastating and lasting impact on their mental health and risk being harshly disregarded as a family member.
Here at Remark! we can offer guidance and support. We use our wealth of experience to support both Deaf parents and their hearing children.